Have you ever told yourself that you’re going to focus on yourself? From now on you will eliminate distractions. So you get started and you are good for a week. Maybe a few days, a few hours, then boom! Something happens and all of a sudden you get distracted. All of a sudden you’re focused on something else rather than the goals you have set in place. You see, this happens to me all the time. For example, I will tell myself that I will go up to the post office today or I will do laundry today and sooner or later an excuse comes into place or I get distracted and forget what I said I was going to do in the first place. For a while, I use to beat myself up about it and be like man you need to grow up and learn to stay focus because all these little kids’ games you’re playing need to stop now. But honestly, they will never go away in a day, a week, a year. Hell, it could take years for them to finally go away. Now am I willing to wait a year to see if they will go away? The answer to that question is no. I will not wait for a year to see if they will go away because I don’t even know if I’ll be alive in a year. Not that I’m speaking death into existence or anything I’m just being real. Life is too short to wait to better yourself when you could be taking small steps now to do so. It all goes back to the training of the mind. You must train your mind to be able to focus on the goals that you have set into place and the only way to do that is by getting out there in the field and getting dirty. Yes, you’ll make mistakes doing so. Yes, you’ll fail sometimes. And yes, you’ll forget certain things in the first place. It’s what makes us human because we all fuck up sometimes. But, what will separate you from the rest is that you are willing to go out there and fail and make mistakes just to achieve the goals that are important to you. But it all lies on how you train your mind to do the things that you said you would do.
Even though I might not take everyday actions towards my goals. Doesn’t mean I am not thinking about them. Sometimes I take a break, a break to relax after the constant grind that was put in. Sometimes I need moments to where I just sit still and think not do anything, not move a single muscle, but just sit and think. Think about everything I have achieved before and everything that lies before me which is endless opportunities and possibilities. Take a moment and think of why I’m doing what I’m doing so that on days when I feel down or stuck I can remember why I started in the first place. You see on days like this even though work might not be done physically for my goals they are done mentally. They are done in a way where I’m focusing on improving my mind, soul, and spirit without the physical aspect of it. Because I believe with a strong, growing, and rested mindset you can achieve and take on anything that comes your way.
STOP using the same excuses for why you aren’t where you are want to be. I’ve heard people say things like, “oh it’s because of my color, oh it’s because of my skin, or oh it’s because I’m a male or female”. Listen if you want to accomplish your own definition of success. Then you must quit with the whole blaming it on your color, religion, or gender. There are plenty of people who are the same color, has the same religion, and are gender as you and they still achieved their very own definition of success. Reason being is because they refuse to allow for their color, religion, and gender to stop them from achieving something that they have always wanted. So why should you? Why should you allow for your color, religion, and gender to stop you from achieving something that at the end of the day is personal to you? It doesn’t belong to anyone else but you and if you have to go through hell and high water to achieve it then so be it. But you will not, I repeat, YOU WILL NOT blame it on your color, gender, or religion for why you aren’t where you want to be at in life. That is something entirely up to you so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
SMILE MORE, LAUGH MORE, LIVE MORE
Staying consistent, building better habits, and doing the small things that you every day will guide you to where you want to be.
Figuring out the next move is something that has me with mix feelings. You see, I usually always know what I want to work on next but then I just think to myself like how do I even get started on it. You see, living in a money driven society many things require money. Now, I believe true happiness can’t be found in money therefore you can find true happiness for free. Now, yes that’s the easy part but what about the hard part? What about wanting to build houses for people who don’t have one, what about wanting to travel the world, and spreading positivity and motivation all over? Does all of those things require money or is it something else? Does it really just take consistency to be able to do these things, does drive really take you that far, what’s really in store for you? I usually start with a goal whenever I’m trying to figure out what’s next. That goal then carries me on to the meat and potatoes of it, which is how will I achieve it. How will I achieve this goal? And the answer to that is, I place one foot in front of the other and take it step by step. Because believe me it will take awhile to achieve, but once you get started on it you’ll be surprise with what you find in store for you. In other words, prepare to receive more than what you asked for. So I say this, if you are struggling to figure out what’s next then start with a goal. Once you start with a goal everything else will fall in place, you just have to be willing to start.
Money has no value. In the United States we print around $541 million a day. So that means it doesn’t matter how much money we spend we can always gain more again. But the real value lies in the people. People are valuable therefore they make other things valuable. So next time you talk down about yourself, next time you say how you don’t mean anything to this world. Just remember you are valuable, you are someone, and you have a purpose here. You might not see it now but sooner you will.
While you are out with your families and friends enjoying the holidays, take a second and remember those who don’t have that chance. Those who don’t have friends or family, or those who have them but can’t be with them right now. I want you to remember that so you can be thankful for what you have right here, right now. Be thankful that you have a roof over your head, even if it’s not a great one, be thankful for your family and friends even though they might get on your nerves, and be thankful that you have a chance to celebrate another Thanksgiving even if you don’t celebrate it at least you made it to another one. Not many can say that so enjoy it, embrace it, and most of all be thankful for it.
I end this by saying HAPPY HOLIDAYS AND MAY GOD BLESS YOU!!!
Take a moment to give thanks for what you have and realize how blessed you are.- Unknown
Focus on you and don’t worry about what anyone has to say, because at the end of the day,once you are older, you are going to realize that no one ever cared anyway.